For a long time, I feel like I have unfairly criticized people for things they do and the way they act. My post today is really about trying to understand why people feel a need to spread such angry criticisms of things they couldn’t possibly understand even if they wanted to.
It happens all the time; people get blamed for things they have no control over. This can be as simple as a pizza delivery driver blamed for arriving late and getting tipped less to as complicated as an unemployed college graduate blaming Obama for not having a job.
My friend is a delivery driver for Pizza Shuttle here in Norman and says that IF people decide to tip(yes, isn’t it shocking that people wouldn’t tip someone who relies completely on tip money?), he is tipped significantly less if he arrives just 20 to 30 minutes or more after the order is placed. Before I knew Chris, I thought it was common practice to tip 10-15% at least to a pizza delivery driver, no matter what. I guess I can thank my restaurant-owning and understanding parents for this.
I have worked in the service industry in Dallas as a server/barista and received such brutal treatment from customers that it has made me never want to do it again, no matter the pay. Most of the things service-industry workers are blamed for are either not their fault, or a byproduct of the customer being misunderstood. There are terrible workers out there who couldn’t do their jobs even if they wanted to, but for the most part I’ve always been able to accept someone’s mistakes as long as they are trying their best in the circumstance.
Another thing that happened today that I seem to read about all the time with my friends and in the media is unfair criticism of government. I am a journalist, so ofcourse I think fair criticism of government is necessary for society to function successfully. But when did it become okay for people to blame their everyday problems and failures on people who are busting their ass every day to try to figure the problems we face today. I am a huge critic of our political system and how things never seem to get done on a multitude of issues, but I would never blame what I have now or the situation I’m in now on ONE individual in government.
I read on a friend’s Facebook page a status update that reads, “I’d like to thank all those who voted for OBAMA…. I have no JOB and he’s done nothing…!!!! If he gets re-elected I am moving out the country!”
I would hate for my personal political biases to shine through here, but I can’t honestly believe that someone could pinpoint their job situation on one person. The funny thing is that this Facebook status update has 61 responses after only 4 hours of being up, with many of them personal attacks involving race and absolute anger.
Look at this gem from that comment conversation: “I agree with everything you have said, it was a race issue. If he wasn’t black people wouldn’t have voted for him. He was underqualified and had little experience from the gate. The only “change” people voted for was the change for race in office. I am def proud I did not go with the majority on that one….not that it matters I’m still getting fucked like the rest of america. Did you watch his interview the other day where he literally said the words “I demand people to stop placing the blame on me for this oil spill” no joke, look it up…..enraging.”
Are you kidding me? And these people are voting and walking around among us. People who think Obama was voted in because he was black, and who also think he was under-qualified.
And just reading these things makes ME angry. It makes me want to respond. But whenever I have in the past with my own views and judgments on these issues, it turns into something unbelievably enormous.
This post, while not a complete rant, because I feel like I could go on for hours longer with 100 more examples, is exactly why I will never waste my time engaging with people of unfairly-critical mindsets.
This is what I mean by unfair criticism. Everything they are standing around paid for by taxes